When Parenting Gets Hard

Jason Micheli —  April 23, 2013 — Leave a comment

crucifixionA friend recently sent me this note, reflecting on the challenges and hardships that come to parents.

Sitting on the edge of the hospital bed, hearing the sound of heart monitoring devices, I wonder if this is the day I will see my son die.

It’s not clear what illegal street drugs he has taken, but it’s enough to warrant fear:

The kind of gut-wrenching fear and panic that every parent hopes never to feel.  As I remain calm on the outside, my mind is racing to ask the right medical questions, praying to God to save him, mentally double checking where my other children are, wondering how long I will be here and who will I call if he dies?

Parenting is not easy.  

Children don’t come with directions or manuals.

Although bookstores are packed with parenting suggestions, every child and situation is unique.  What works for one child, may not work for another.  Then there’s the whole nature vs. nurture thing.

What I have found is that most parents will face hardship at some point.  Whether it’s dealing with your child’s addictions, rebellion, physical or mental limitations, disappointments, or tragedies, you will encounter pain along the way.

The good news is that we have a loving, all-knowing, and comforting God who will pull us though.   We may not “feel” as if anyone is behind the scenes, directing the scenario so that it works out best, but rest assured, look at the cross: our God will use suffering as well as blessings for His glory.

Mentally have the discipline to believe God’s Word, even when your heart is broken and your emotions deceive you.  

This doesn’t mean that everything will turn out the way you want it.  But it does mean that our Lord and Savior, the one who will create a new heaven on earth, the one who loves us so much he gave his life for us, the one who reaches down when we are in the pit of pain and scoops us up into his arms, will show his mercy upon us.

Trust in the Lord.  Have faith.

These are so hard to do in a crisis.

As I wait for the medical reports to return, my son’s rapid breathing continues. His eyes open and close, searching for answers.  Our eyes meet.  I try to hide my anger, fear, and disappointment.  I tell him I love him.

Every word of God is tested; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him.  Proverbs 30:5

Jason Micheli


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