Summer is here. Kids are out of school. Their normal routine has changed whether they are spending time at home, on vacation, or in camps.
If you are like most parents, the battle over the amount of time your child uses media is in full force. Does watching TV for an hour mean less computer time? What about checking Facebook and Twitter? Not to mention the time spent posting photos on Instagram.
What better time to ask yourself:
“What’s influencing my children?”
In addition to all the media options, parents should know their kids’ friends. Who are they spending time with? Peer pressure is strongest in the teenage years, yet even elementary children will follow the “cool” kids.
Before you throw out all the electronics in the house, or do a background check on all your kid’s friends, keep in mind this important statistic: Parents have more influence over their children than friends, music, TV, the Internet or celebrities.
We choose our children’s education, extracurricular activities, spiritual formation, and values.
We nurture their relationships with family and friends. We create their “family” model.
Have you ever thought how your marriage affects your children?
It is probably one of the strongest influences in their life.
Not surprisingly, one of the most important gifts we can give our children is a happy marriage.
A happy marriage you may ask? What does that have to do with raising children?
Children will learn how to treat others, how to share, disagree, compromise, and even love by watching their parents interact.
Just as we nurture our children, we should nurture our marriage.
Add up the amount of time spent chauffeuring your children from school, sports, activities……you get the idea. Now add up the amount of time (alone) you spend with your mate. How do these compare? Is there even a comparison?
The framework for marriage is clear in the Bible.
Love each other.
Sacrifice for each other.
Be faithful to each other.
The marriage covenant here on earth is a first step in practicing the marriage we will have in heaven with Christ. We are the bride and Christ is the bridegroom. We, as believers, wait with great anticipation for the day we are reunited with our Lord.
It’s easy to forget this when we are busy raising kids.
The commitments and responsibilities can be overwhelming, and let’s face it, we’re tired at the end of the day.
However, the dynamics between parents cannot be underestimated.
Make an effort to spend quality time with your spouse. Go on a date. Show affection to one another. Teach your children what it means to love your spouse. Sometimes the simplest look, touch, or kiss can rekindle lost feelings.
The benefits of a warm, affectionate, and loving marriage will influence your children now and in their future relationships.
For in loving, forgiving, and sharing with our spouse, our children see Christ at work.
In addition to looking at media and peer influences on your children, don’t forget to reflect on your marriage. A night out together may be just what you need.
Parents have more influence over their child than friends, music, TV, the Internet and celebrities