I waited patiently for Jason to post his last sermon – the one with the glasses of water. I immediately sent it to my son and his fiancé who are recently engaged. While their relationship is amazing and beautiful and their commitment solid, I want to make sure they have the Great Bridegroom right in there with them.
Not unlike many of us, as they begin to plan the wedding, they start with the easy stuff. Choosing flowers and a menu is so much more pleasant than dealing with the expectations and questions of where and by whom they should be married.
It seems they are both bringing some pretty complicated religious baggage and like many of us don’t fit neatly into a denominational box.
I was moved to tears by an email that I received from him recently asking me how I felt and if I had any advice about finding someone to marry them. (Most priests and many ministers won’t marry couples unless they go through some sort of pre-marital counseling process, which makes complete sense to me.)
But, with all the demands of life, school, work and family, they are just as comfortable going to a Justice of the Peace.
Wow….where do I start on that one?
You see he grew up as a Methodist….kind of….with a father who is Catholic and a mother who grew up Mormon. I say kind of because it wasn’t until he was older that I decided that making the effort to go to church was worth it. That helping him learn about a loving and merciful God might be important. (The consequences of which is an entirely different post). By then I had to compete with hockey practice, all sports, girls and any number of things I already had working against me in the get to church department.
I walk a fine line here not wanting him to regret asking. I want to look him in the eye and beg him to bring in Jesus NOW in any and every way possible. He is your Hope. He will hold you together as a couple and as a man.
If I tell him less than that I dishonor Christ.
I have to give him an answer that has some meat.
None of us need one more thing in our lives to let us down, to disappoint. If we come to Christ with less than all of our hearts, we will get less of Him.
And less just isn’t enough.
Less will always bring us to our knees.
I love it anytime Jesus offered truth so simply.
“If it were not so I would have told you”
“I tell you the truth”
As Keller put it so beautifully, “His are the only arms that will give you all your heart desires”.
Not your beautiful, wise and loving girl.
She will have her bridegroom Christ as well!
I know his beloved as a wise woman already: She listens to her mother.